As a parent and a Christian I am so glad that I have the Bible to learn from and to pass those lessons on to my kids. One verse that I shared with one of my girls on the weekend was James 1:19. It says…
“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry”.
I was able to to share that if we don’t really listen to people we might not actually hear what they are trying to communicate to us. If we are thinking about what we are going to say in return or what we think they need, we might miss out on an important piece of the jigsaw of communication.
The other thing I shared was that if we don’t hear the full message we might jump to a conclusion and think the person is actually saying something that they are not. This can lead to confusion and anger.
For me this was a good reminder as I was teaching it. At times, especially when I am tired or busy, I forget to really listen to the message and all the non-verbal signals that are part of communicating. It is only afterwards that I realise what the person was trying to say to me. And sadly the time to help or support is sometimes lost.